Why You Should Delay Sex if You Want a Real Relationship’ A promising relationship can be derailed when both people have premature sex before getting to know each other and learning if they are truly compatible. Premature sex rushes things and creates an imaginary bond that isn’t strong enough to sustain a long-term relationship. Having sex early on gives a man very little incentive to get to know who you are.
When a man doesn’t know who you truly are, the sex he has with you is based on lust (i.e. Physical gratification),instead of a real like or love (i.e. deep emotional connection). A woman
tends to feel an emotional connection after having sex, even when she doesn’t really know who the man is. If the sex is amazing, oxytocin will trick you into thinking you’re compatible, even if he isn’t the right man for you. You’ll tend to fall for him soon after based on the illusion of who you think he is. As you continue to have sex, your feelings become stronger and you feel more connected to him. You may even think you love him, when you actually lust for him. Easy Come, Easy Go Sexual encounters that are premature lead to short-term or ‘on- again’, ‘off-again’ relationships that are about hanging out and hooking up. A man who sleeps with a woman who is quick to sleep with him, doesn’t think of this woman as someone to settle down with. His perception of an “easy woman” is easy come, easy go. She’s fine to sleep with, but isn’t ‘marriage material’ If you find yourself having sex with a man early on, even if you tell him you don’t usually sleep with a man so soon, he won’t believe you because your actions show otherwise. If you want a real relationship with a man you really like and have been sleeping with him early on, stop having sex to see if you are both compatible. You also need to know if he is interested in the real you or just wants you for sex. A man who is just looking for sex will have no interest in getting to know you and will soon leave. A man who wants a genuine relationship will respect your decision when he finds out you are not ready for sex. He may not be happy about it, but will be okay with it. Learn what’s most important to him, what his values are, what his family is like, how he treats others, what he thinks about different topics, especially ‘sexual purity’ and how he views the world, etc. Let him get to know you too. Taking the time to learn about each other will reveal how compatible you are outside of the bedroom. If you want to be in a long-term relationship, delay sex until you both feel a connection on a mind, body and soul level. In doing so, you are knowing your worth by placing a higher value on yourself. As a result, you’ll attract a higher quality man who treats you with the love and respect you deserve.